I have a friend who joined up, took the “personality profile” and paid the fee. She didn’t meet anybody, but I just found it interesting that internet match-making was an option for her. I remember a conversation years ago — the idea of trying to make a love connection online was not seen in a very favorable light.
I don’t know anyone personally, who’s found their “soulmate”, via the internet. But I’ve noticed that a lot more sistas are becoming more open to the possibility. I think the whole concept of eHarmony — that there are a lot of key social/emotional/spiritual factors that can determine whether two individuals are a good love “match”, is definately dead on the money. Opposites attract, but they don’t often stay attracted. I believe the most successful relationships are based on…similarity, in some very key areas. You can like vanilla ice cream, and I can like chocolate. But if you spend money like it grows on trees, and I’m frugal, there may be some problems. If you’re very close to your family, and I can’t stand to be in the same room with mine, we might have some issues.
I will say this, though: If you can hang in there, and complete that lo-oo-ng personality profile, you’ve got a lot going for you. I tried to take it (for fun), and after awhile, I started just clickin’ answers, cuz I got tired of thinking about the questions. Now, I probably should have done it in stages, but since it started out as just something fun to do, (if I’d been serious, I woulda done it right), and it ceased to be “fun”, after the 100th question, I decided I could have more fun doing something else.
Oh, well…
A Nappy Girl
Well you know I’m “el-cheapo.” I actually completed the personality profile just to see what type of person I am and to see who I’m most compatible with. I didn’t pay the fee as you probably guessed. That didn’t stop them from trying to lure me in with potential matches by sending me emails about several men. All I wound up doing was try to scheme my way into meeting that guys without locking into a membership however long or shortterm. Oh well…no breakthroughs as of yet. HA!
Kisha,
I don’t know. There’s a part of me that has a problem with “paying” for a hookup. Now, while eHarmony definately doesn’t market itself as a “Christian” matchmaking service, its founder, Neil Clark Warren is a believer (I think).
I think all paid matchmaking services profit off the loneliness of others, and I have a real problem with that, which is why I’d never pay for the service. With all these saved folk walking around, you’d think somebody would know somebody who might wanna know you, or me, or any other single man/woman. While the church is definately not supposed to be a “dating service”, it’s a shame that the church is not meeting the social needs of its adult members.
*sigh* :)