Comments on: Is It Better To Marry, Than To Burn? http://nappilyevahaftah.net/2007/12/12/is-it-better-to-marry-than-to-burn/ My Life/My Hair/My Goodness! Thu, 20 May 2010 03:30:01 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Joshua http://nappilyevahaftah.net/2007/12/12/is-it-better-to-marry-than-to-burn/comment-page-1/#comment-7431 Joshua Fri, 29 May 2009 18:41:01 +0000 http://nappilyevahaftah.net/2007/12/12/is-it-better-to-marry-than-to-burn/#comment-7431 Hey, Liked reading the post and the comments even after it being such a long time since it was written. Personally, being a twenty something year christian male fresh out of college and reading this; it gives a certain peace which has been hard to come by (being single that is) after previous relationships. Good stuff! Hey, Liked reading the post and the comments even after it being such a long time since it was written. Personally, being a twenty something year christian male fresh out of college and reading this; it gives a certain peace which has been hard to come by (being single that is) after previous relationships. Good stuff!

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]]> By: drummer4jesus http://nappilyevahaftah.net/2007/12/12/is-it-better-to-marry-than-to-burn/comment-page-1/#comment-7271 drummer4jesus Tue, 09 Dec 2008 14:54:43 +0000 http://nappilyevahaftah.net/2007/12/12/is-it-better-to-marry-than-to-burn/#comment-7271 One interesting thing, the Bible DOES tell spouses not to defraud each other ( concerning your mate's desire ). If your spouse doesn't stoke your passionate fire seek counsel immediately. I have been through 3 marriages and have not become bitter. I was not saved during these marriages and entered in with the wrong mind/heartset. Marriage is not to be entered lightly. The old joke that marriage is the leading cause of divorce has run its course in my life. Now sex in marriage is something to be enjoyed OFTEN!! There are scriptures saying you should be drunk on your mate's lovemaking. God designed sex and sanctified it for marriage, which I have stumbled all too many times in my music career. A sexless marriage is one of the leading causes of divorce!!!!!! The Song of Solomon is dedicated to the beauty of erotic love ( although many ministers and pastors have tried to de-sexualize it saying it is only an allegory of Christ's love for the church, oh really!!???). If sex wasn't part of God's plan why and how did the Song of Solomon wind up in God's Holy Word? One interesting thing, the Bible DOES tell spouses not to defraud each other ( concerning your mate’s desire ). If your spouse doesn’t stoke your passionate fire seek counsel immediately. I have been through 3 marriages and have not become bitter. I was not saved during these marriages and entered in with the wrong mind/heartset. Marriage is not to be entered lightly. The old joke that marriage is the leading cause of divorce has run its course in my life. Now sex in marriage is something to be enjoyed OFTEN!! There are scriptures saying you should be drunk on your mate’s lovemaking. God designed sex and sanctified it for marriage, which I have stumbled all too many times in my music career. A sexless marriage is one of the leading causes of divorce!!!!!! The Song of Solomon is dedicated to the beauty of erotic love ( although many ministers and pastors have tried to de-sexualize it saying it is only an allegory of Christ’s love for the church, oh really!!???). If sex wasn’t part of God’s plan why and how did the Song of Solomon wind up in God’s Holy Word?

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]]> By: A Nappy Girl http://nappilyevahaftah.net/2007/12/12/is-it-better-to-marry-than-to-burn/comment-page-1/#comment-7245 A Nappy Girl Thu, 13 Nov 2008 18:18:18 +0000 http://nappilyevahaftah.net/2007/12/12/is-it-better-to-marry-than-to-burn/#comment-7245 Thanks for stopping by, Heather! Thanks for your perspective. I think more married folks need to fess' up and help the younger singles. I'm not saying that there aren't some GREAT Christian marriages, and I also think Paul spoke as a man who at one time WAS married — but the church has done a terrible job at preparing single folk to be...single. Stop by, when you can... Thanks for stopping by, Heather!
Thanks for your perspective. I think more married folks need to fess’ up and help the younger singles. I’m not saying that there aren’t some GREAT Christian marriages, and I also think Paul spoke as a man who at one time WAS married — but the church has done a terrible job at preparing single folk to be…single.

Stop by, when you can…

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]]> By: Heather http://nappilyevahaftah.net/2007/12/12/is-it-better-to-marry-than-to-burn/comment-page-1/#comment-7244 Heather Thu, 13 Nov 2008 00:21:23 +0000 http://nappilyevahaftah.net/2007/12/12/is-it-better-to-marry-than-to-burn/#comment-7244 Your post title totally caught my attention. :) I love all your thoughts and kudos to you for remaining celibate! My husband would confess the main reason he married me was so he wouldn't burn...and he soon found out that wasn't the answer! We're going to raise our children telling them it's better NOT to marry (like Paul instructs), but it is not wrong TO marry. I want them to do whatever the LORD wants for them either way, but I just know Paul was right when he said "there is much trouble in the flesh" in being married (much blessing too - but you have the tough times with it). Anyway, look forward to reading more of your stuff as I have the time. God bless! Your post title totally caught my attention. :) I love all your thoughts and kudos to you for remaining celibate! My husband would confess the main reason he married me was so he wouldn’t burn…and he soon found out that wasn’t the answer! We’re going to raise our children telling them it’s better NOT to marry (like Paul instructs), but it is not wrong TO marry. I want them to do whatever the LORD wants for them either way, but I just know Paul was right when he said “there is much trouble in the flesh” in being married (much blessing too – but you have the tough times with it). Anyway, look forward to reading more of your stuff as I have the time. God bless!

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]]> By: Joyfro http://nappilyevahaftah.net/2007/12/12/is-it-better-to-marry-than-to-burn/comment-page-1/#comment-7215 Joyfro Wed, 15 Oct 2008 17:35:57 +0000 http://nappilyevahaftah.net/2007/12/12/is-it-better-to-marry-than-to-burn/#comment-7215 I think the misconception comes when women feel that they are the only ones that need to get it together before marriage. When in actuality Men have to do the same thing as well both people have to evaluate themselves before things can take place. Not just surface things like good job, house, car, good credit, but some deep set things that if not dealt with separately can ravage a union. No you wont have every single issue together before you unite because somethings you will iron out together. Also It is not always because a single person has things the need to fix in them selves. God just may need them to wait and im not sure how long or why only God knows. I dont believe that people should use spiritual conferences as their primary source. God should always be our primary source for all direction in our live, because man doesn't have all the answer. Sometimes he may not give us the answer we want or he may not say anything at all. I know we know women who wild out and then like you said 6 months later are engaged and married to the nicest man at church. The grass looks greener on the other side some people get married because they feel like they have waited long enough or because they want their dream lavish wedding or even because the man that they have fits all the surface criteria. The problem is that many marriages may seem ideal on the outside but are full of hell in the inside. Just because some men may seem like the total package if you really get a chance to know them their will be flaws and imperfections that you may not want to deal with. Alot of people put on their good church face when they walk in to those doors, and you never get to see them in their true element. I think the misconception comes when women feel that they are the only ones that need to get it together before marriage. When in actuality Men have to do the same thing as well both people have to evaluate themselves before things can take place. Not just surface things like good job, house, car, good credit, but some deep set things that if not dealt with separately can ravage a union. No you wont have every single issue together before you unite because somethings you will iron out together. Also It is not always because a single person has things the need to fix in them selves. God just may need them to wait and im not sure how long or why only God knows. I dont believe that people should use spiritual conferences as their primary source. God should always be our primary source for all direction in our live, because man doesn’t have all the answer. Sometimes he may not give us the answer we want or he may not say anything at all. I know we know women who wild out and then like you said 6 months later are engaged and married to the nicest man at church. The grass looks greener on the other side some people get married because they feel like they have waited long enough or because they want their dream lavish wedding or even because the man that they have fits all the surface criteria. The problem is that many marriages may seem ideal on the outside but are full of hell in the inside. Just because some men may seem like the total package if you really get a chance to know them their will be flaws and imperfections that you may not want to deal with. Alot of people put on their good church face when they walk in to those doors, and you never get to see them in their true element.

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