Essence magazine published an article many years ago, about the reasons men take phone numbers, but never follow up with actual…phone calls. I wish I had that magazine, cuz I’d make copies of that article and pass it on to EVERY woman I know. I remember most of it, and I’ve experienced some of it.
How many times has a guy asked for your phone number, and never called? How many times have you sat by the phone (hopefully very few), because you didn’t wanna “miss” his call? How much time have you spent analyzing a guy’s confusing behavior, only to end up confused and angry? Why do guys ask for your phone number (and don’t follow with a phone call)? Oh…let’s see:
- Because they wanna see if they can get it. It’s a game. Some guys like collecting phone numbers. Many have girlfriends/wives/baby mammas, but they like to run game, just to see if their game is tight. They have no intention of calling you. They make bets with their friends, to see who can get the most numbers, before the evening ends.
- Because he just had an argument with his girlfriend, and he’s on rebound…just for the evening. But when he leaves the club/church, he’ll go back with his girlfriend. It’s nothing personal. You just got caught up in the crossfire. He was mad, and wanted to act out. Stop sitting by the phone. He’s not going to call.
- Because they think it’s the thing to do. Women are most bothered by guys who ask for their numbers, after an evening of stimulating conversation. They felt a “connection”, and thought the guy was all in. But the guy was just being…courteous? It’s like a way of saying “thanks for the interesting evening”, but it doesn’t necessarily mean he wants it to continue. That’s weird, but that’s sometimes how it is.
Bottom line: Who knows why he didn’t call? 
You don’t…and you probably never will. If a guy asks for your phone number, don’t make it “mean” anything, because it may mean nothing. Your phone number may be one of many collected that weekend. Don’t change your plans/daily routine, trying to be around, if he decides to call. It shouldn’t be that deep. If he wants to talk to you, he’ll call until he reaches you. Keep it movin’.
A Nappy Girl
I needed to read this. I am one of those women who sits by the phone waiting for the call that never comes. I take it so personally and I need to stop doing that. I do wish guys wouldn’t take your number if they are not going to call you. But I guess I need to stop taking it so seriously.
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Hey Latrice!
All guys aren’t jerks, but I think we allow them to flood our thoughts, when we’re often not even a passing thought to them. They take up too much of our head space, sometimes.
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